About our Daughter

I am mother to four wonderful daughters, ages 17, 19, 21, and 23, and wife to the greatest husband on earth. God has given us a special child to raise one who was diagnosed with early-onset bipolar disorder at the age of seven, though she showed signs of it from the age of fifteen months. She also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (sensory seeking), Dyslexia, and Non-Verbal Learning Disorder-NOS, all typical comorbidities for a bipolar child. In spite of the trials, she enjoys lacrosse, running (finished her first marathon in October of 2014!), and reading and writing her own books. I will share with you the many joys and sorrows we have faced and will face in the future with the hope that you may find better understanding about this mental illness caused by both chemical and structural abnormalities in the brain. I desire that you will be encouraged by this blog if you are also dealing with a bipolar child. Thank you for reading and sharing in our journey.

How Did You Know She Was Bipolar So Young?

I wrote a long explanation of how we came to this bipolar diagnosis in a child so young under my post of March 19th of 2009. If your child or a child you know bears similarities, please seek out a good psychiatrist and don't wait for "things to get better." Often they will simply get worse, and the longer a child is unmedicated, the more damage their brain can accrue. Early diagnoses and treatment are key to providing these children with a chance at a successful life later as a teen and an adult.
Never change, start or stop a medication without the approval of your child's physician!

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

"Can I Date?"

The answer, succinctly, is no.  Caroline, much to her credit, approached my husband and I with this serious question today.  She likes a boy she met at the nearby high school while playing wall ball up there.  We are so proud that she asked us to go out for coffee so she could share with us her feelings about this boy and ask permission to date him.  Given her recent lack of truthfulness, this is a very good sign and we will be rewarding her for choosing to be so honest and for honoring us as her parents to come to us first.

But, this is not the time in her life when we feel she can handle the temptations of having a boyfriend.  With her many struggles with self-control, adding that of romance to it all just isn't wise.  She is disappointed and hopefully won't go behind our backs with this.  I pray she will trust us that we know her well enough that our decision is truly in her best interest.  One day a great guy will hopefully come along when she is older (much older ) and wiser and able to handle it.

8 comments:

Anna said...

I like the idea of rewarding her for asking. I would not have thought of that part. You are very thoughtful in your parenting.

Mama Bear said...

I don't look forward to this stage with my son, right now he's too young, but I know the day is coming.

mark said...

I looked up amantadine today... and then wow... we have a lot in common...diagnosis remarkably similar, trip to Austin, similar meds and a brooding adolescent though in our case a young man.

mark said...

every comment public? would love to ask some questions. Krill Oil? Seasonal Effect? Vitamin D?

Megan said...

Mark, If you would like to email me personally, I am at meganbstack@yahoo.com.

Donna said...

This is by far the hardest time of parenting a bipolar child. I'm so glad we are out the other side. our rule of thumb, as sad as it was 'if her mouth was moving, she was lying'. like you, we would check up.

Rose Adoption Journey said...

Thanks for posting. We are going through this right now with our 16 year old boy. He is "girl crazy" big time and doesnt understand why he cant date. His lack of self control too is our reasoning. We are having to hold off on driving too because of the same reason. It is hard when our kids see everyone doing the typical things and dont understand why they have to wait a while!!

Rose Adoption Journey said...

This is a good one! We are in discussions right now with our son and having to explain to a 16 yr old why he has to wait is very hard! He is very discouraged right now. This is a very hard time in life for our kids.