About our Daughter

I am mother to four wonderful daughters, ages 17, 19, 21, and 23, and wife to the greatest husband on earth. God has given us a special child to raise one who was diagnosed with early-onset bipolar disorder at the age of seven, though she showed signs of it from the age of fifteen months. She also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (sensory seeking), Dyslexia, and Non-Verbal Learning Disorder-NOS, all typical comorbidities for a bipolar child. In spite of the trials, she enjoys lacrosse, running (finished her first marathon in October of 2014!), and reading and writing her own books. I will share with you the many joys and sorrows we have faced and will face in the future with the hope that you may find better understanding about this mental illness caused by both chemical and structural abnormalities in the brain. I desire that you will be encouraged by this blog if you are also dealing with a bipolar child. Thank you for reading and sharing in our journey.

How Did You Know She Was Bipolar So Young?

I wrote a long explanation of how we came to this bipolar diagnosis in a child so young under my post of March 19th of 2009. If your child or a child you know bears similarities, please seek out a good psychiatrist and don't wait for "things to get better." Often they will simply get worse, and the longer a child is unmedicated, the more damage their brain can accrue. Early diagnoses and treatment are key to providing these children with a chance at a successful life later as a teen and an adult.
Never change, start or stop a medication without the approval of your child's physician!

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

You've Got to Be Kidding!!

That is how we are feeling right now after learning that my husband has a benign brain tumor called a vestibular schwannoma.  He had been having hearing loss, ringing in his ear,  a feeling of pressure behind his ear,  and dizziness the last few months or so.  He finally got an MRI after the military ENT noted the hearing loss last month.  The MRI showed the rare growth, which now has to be dealt with by surgery or radiation.  Because this health issue might take months more to resolve, the Navy might have to call him back to Active Duty.  The Navy officially retired him last month without giving him a retirement physical, which was really stupid and probably illegal.  He didn't know there was such a thing, nobody mentioned it to him, even over at medical where he was spending a lot of time getting his all of his medical stuff wrapped up prior to retirement.   What this means is that his job search is in limbo because we don't know when they might recall him, it could be a few months off since his next ENT appointment to discuss treatment is a month away!  So that means more time unemployed and unable to look for a job wholeheartedly.  How dumb is that?  So frustrating!  So between no paycheck, a brain tumor, and our stupid contractor who messed up our kitchen addition a few years ago leading to rotting walls and floor, we are more than just a little bit stressed out right now.

But compared to a child who wants to die and is without hope, this is nothing.  We have been there and the stress of feeling completely helpless to help your child is far worse.  I will take this over a suicidal child any day.

10 comments:

Jessica said...

Megan -
I am sorry to hear of your new stress.
I understand how you feel - my son expressed suicidal thoughts several times before we were finally able to get a proper diagnosis. As hard as everything else is in life - I'd rather take the world on - because I know I can fix some of those issues. When it comes to him - I feel so powerless to help.
I will pray for your husband, the physicians who will treat him and the rest of your family. Whenever I get to the point where I don't think I can handle one more thing - I try to remind myself that God only gives the "hard jobs" to those he thinks are strong enough to handle them. I think you are one heck of a strong woman - and I admire you for that strength.

Hartley said...

Wouldn't it be nice to not have either? Yeah, I know, hopeful thinking! :)

I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts, I KNOW you will get through this, and having children like ours sure does help keep things in perspective.

On a side note, we started my son on Lamictal last week. So far, so good. Low does. No results so far.

Hartley

Carol said...

I am so sorry you are going through this. I'll be praying.

Erin said...

Hang in there Megan- you sound like you are keeping your perspective- good for you.

I wrote earlier about being asked to teach Sunday school- well that exploded with alot of adult drama- leaving me feeling more "disconnected" and as I sit here- I am thinking that we are headed for more "cutting" soon with my daughter- one day at a time-- this is pretty much all we can do....

Erin said...

PS - I will keep your husband in my prayers....

Mama Bear said...

Oh you poor thing! It's so hard when suffering continues, sometimes you just need a break! I'm glad the tumor wasn't deadly, we've seen one of those in our family and it’s devastating. Hang in there mama, saying a prayer for you today!

Mel ~ said...

((((hugs)))) my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family my dear. I feel your pain, like the searing shards of glass beneath each footfall.

ann said...

My prayers go out to you and your family. Prayer is the strongest medicene and you have mine.
Ann

Megan said...

Thank you everyone for your comments and well wishes and prayers. Yesterday I felt more hopeful but today my husband is so down that it is affecting me too. I just want this stage of our lives to be over!

Anna said...

Just one day at a time my friend.