I get this question a lot, and I thought I would just answer it right here. If your child has been hospitalized several times without good effect, if the right med mix seemingly can't be found outpatient, if they are a consistent danger to themselves or you or their siblings, if they have given up hope that they can ever be anything but a failure in relationships, in school and at home, don't hesitate to consider residential treatment. This is a last resort, but it shouldn't be out of the question. To do nothing but what you have been doing without good lasting results is foolish.
That being said, do your homework. There are great residential centers and some poor ones. The poor ones would be worse than not going. Find the best you can afford. We choose Meridell because of its reputation. We didn't live anywhere near Texas, but it was worth it. I would take out a second mortgage if I had to. The experience changed our daughter's life for the good, and she is still grateful she went.
I think the key test is if the stress level is so great at home that everyone's mental health is seriously affected, you need to look at residential, to give your child real hope and to give yourself a much needed break.
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We are actually in the process of applying there for our almost 13-year-old daughter. Reading through your journey there has been a huge source of encouragement for me! Thank you for sharing this story with us.
My 11 year old daughter was just diagnosed yesterday and they began treatment today. This, after 2 prior hospitalizations for cutting and suicidal ideations, and now this third with an actual attempt. She reported all along to her therapist and psychologist and school social worker that meds were working and she felt fine. Other than a few blips as you have with any adolescent, she seemed fine. Grades going up, back with friends, etc. etc. Until Friday night I begain noticing some "changes" but nothing remarkable. AFter a fight on Sunday regarding the simple task of taking a shower, she erupted in to a blind rage at which point, the minute my back was turned she tried to commit suicide. Long story short, I am afraid. AFraid I will not be able to provide my daughter what she needs not only emotionally, but a safe environment as well. I can lock up the whole house and place her in a bubble I suppose but it's just not reality. I am considering residential treatment, but it's just seems so wrong on so many levels, yet I know that's my own issues talking. I now trying to begin networking with other parents as much as I can. I know it's gonna be a long journey.
Colleen it is a long journey. Don't give up. Residential treatment isn't a first resort, but a last one if short term in patient isn't working in conjunction with the local care. I know what you are going through. Hang in there, stay connected and take care of yourself!!
I found your blog while looking for reviews on Meridell My 17 yo daughter may be going later this week if we can get insurance to finally approve. My Alyssa does not have bipolar but instead displays signs of borderline personality disorder. He actions are are leading her down a very dark road. I hate sending her away but I am afraid for her to stay. I suppose I am looking for assurance that Meridell is a good place and that there is no abuse.
If you want to email me with any questions about Meridell, please reach me at meganbstack@yahoo.com
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