We met with the IEP head, the principal, and with the teacher in question on Friday. The teacher denied the practice of a "Survivor" like vote to decide who stays and goes in the groups. Caroline has insisted this actually happens. We aren't sure who to believe. I want to believe both of them.
We made it clear, however, that Caroline has learned very little this semester in his class. The offer was made of moving her out of his class to a computer based class for kids who really struggle with math. And also they gave us the option of letting her skip taking the final exam, and just letting her present grade of a C stand. We are taking this offer. Caroline breathed a huge sigh of relief when we told her this. She needs to get out of his class regardless. We like him as a person, he seems nice enough and caring, but the method of teaching Geometry simply doesn't fit her learning style at all.
The principal was hugely interested in helping Caroline to succeed at this school. We feel he genuinely cares about her.
Caroline spent most of the weekend depressed over the lack of friends at her school. She was crying because she has no one to sit with at lunch. And apparently some "mean" girls have said some things to her that I will be keeping an eye on. She doesn't always share with us everything that happens during her day. And her sister, whose friends are in some of Caroline's classes, is quite angry at the thought of Caroline talking to them and possibly embarrassing her. Sometimes we wonder if we should have just tried to put them in separate high schools from the beginning. There as a big reason we never put Caroline and her older sister Elizabeth in the same middle and high school. We knew they needed their space. Maybe this is true for Caroline and Jane. We want them to love and support each other, but this is not the usual situation. Jane hears things all the time that Caroline has said that are huge exaggerations or even lies and she is just so sensitive. Her friends ask her about these tall tales and she just wants to hide under a table. We are working with Caroline on truthfulness. She exaggerates because she feels so badly about who she is right now that she wants to be someone else, someone that people will like. But she doesn't always see the consequences or can't seem to stop herself. I confronted her on some of these things a few days ago and her response was defensiveness and denial. This is something that will really hurt her in relationships and jobs so we have got to help her get control over this.
About our Daughter
I am mother to four wonderful daughters, ages 17, 19, 21, and 23, and wife to the greatest husband on earth. God has given us a special child to raise one who was diagnosed with early-onset bipolar disorder at the age of seven, though she showed signs of it from the age of fifteen months. She also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (sensory seeking), Dyslexia, and Non-Verbal Learning Disorder-NOS, all typical comorbidities for a bipolar child. In spite of the trials, she enjoys lacrosse, running (finished her first marathon in October of 2014!), and reading and writing her own books. I will share with you the many joys and sorrows we have faced and will face in the future with the hope that you may find better understanding about this mental illness caused by both chemical and structural abnormalities in the brain. I desire that you will be encouraged by this blog if you are also dealing with a bipolar child. Thank you for reading and sharing in our journey.
How Did You Know She Was Bipolar So Young?
I wrote a long explanation of how we came to this bipolar diagnosis in a child so young under my post of March 19th of 2009. If your child or a child you know bears similarities, please seek out a good psychiatrist and don't wait for "things to get better." Often they will simply get worse, and the longer a child is unmedicated, the more damage their brain can accrue. Early diagnoses and treatment are key to providing these children with a chance at a successful life later as a teen and an adult.