Caroline certainly has had an exciting weekend. First prom on Friday night, then a last minute first date on Saturday night!
Prom went very well for her, which was a concern, as every social event is for us. She had a great time with no "incidents" and the only glitch to the evening was that she got overheated (bipolar kids do have a problem with heat intolerance because they don't regulate their body temperatures as well) and came home with a headache and threw up. But this didn't dampen her opinion of the evening.
The date was something we didn't see coming, but we quickly made it a "big deal" so as to ensure that it would be a properly done date, and not something inappropriate. The boy who asked her is someone she has gotten to know at a local high school while playing wall ball after school. I do remember her mentioning this very tall, nice guy and of course we were immediately on guard since we have had a bad experience in the past with people she has met when we haven't been with her. But he asked her to go to a movie yesterday and she told us she is a very nice Christian who helps build playgrounds for needy kids. He sounded too good to be true, so we said that he would have to come to the house so we could meet him and Daddy would have to interview him prior to the date. She willingly agreed, almost enthusiastically, so we felt a little better since her attitude was so good.
Well, this young man walks through the door, and he is tall and blond and really good looking. He immediately shook my hand and engaged in easy conversation. He was obviously adept at talking to adults and looking them straight in the eye, very important! I asked him about high school and he said he was in the pre-med magnet program and plays three different sports. His grandfather founded a Christian ministry. He wants to be a doctor. Smart? Check. Athletic? Check. Servant heart? Check. Able to talk to adults? Check.
My husband took him into the living room and proceeded to have a 15 minute talk with him about the date, including treating his daughter with respect (i.e. keep your hands off of her) and such. My husband was also quite impressed with him and gave him his blessing to take our daughter out. We would let him drive her there but he would pick her up, just to be sure that they were going straight there and back.
Everything went wonderfully. We are amazed at God's goodness toward Caroline, that he would bring such a great guy into her life. We are not hoping that this turns into anything serious of course, but we couldn't have asked for a more decent chap to ask her out on a first date. Thank you Lord, for your grace to us and to Caroline!
About our Daughter
I am mother to four wonderful daughters, ages 17, 19, 21, and 23, and wife to the greatest husband on earth. God has given us a special child to raise one who was diagnosed with early-onset bipolar disorder at the age of seven, though she showed signs of it from the age of fifteen months. She also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (sensory seeking), Dyslexia, and Non-Verbal Learning Disorder-NOS, all typical comorbidities for a bipolar child. In spite of the trials, she enjoys lacrosse, running (finished her first marathon in October of 2014!), and reading and writing her own books. I will share with you the many joys and sorrows we have faced and will face in the future with the hope that you may find better understanding about this mental illness caused by both chemical and structural abnormalities in the brain. I desire that you will be encouraged by this blog if you are also dealing with a bipolar child. Thank you for reading and sharing in our journey.
How Did You Know She Was Bipolar So Young?
I wrote a long explanation of how we came to this bipolar diagnosis in a child so young under my post of March 19th of 2009. If your child or a child you know bears similarities, please seek out a good psychiatrist and don't wait for "things to get better." Often they will simply get worse, and the longer a child is unmedicated, the more damage their brain can accrue. Early diagnoses and treatment are key to providing these children with a chance at a successful life later as a teen and an adult.