About our Daughter
I am mother to four wonderful daughters, ages 13, 15, 17 and 19, and wife to the greatest husband on earth. God has given us a special child to raise one who was diagnosed with early-onset bipolar disorder at the age of seven, though she showed signs of it from the age of fifteen months. She also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (sensory seeking), Dyslexia, and Non-Verbal Learning Disorder-NOS, all typical comorbidities for a bipolar child. She is in the very challenging teen years, and she is attempting a big public high school for the first time. In spite of the trials, she enjoys lacrosse, running, and reading and writing her own books. I will share with you the many joys and sorrows we have faced and will face in the future with the hope that you may find better understanding about this mental illness caused by both chemical and structural abnormalities in the brain. I desire that you will be encouraged by this blog if you are also dealing with a bipolar child. Thank you for reading and sharing in our journey.
How Did You Know She Was Bipolar So Young?
I wrote a long explanation of how we came to this bipolar diagnosis in a child so young under my post of March 19th of 2009. If your child or a child you know bears similarities, please seek out a good psychiatrist and don't wait for "things to get better." Often they will simply get worse, and the longer a child is unmedicated, the more damage their brain can accrue. Early diagnoses and treatment are key to providing these children with a chance at a successful life later as a teen and an adult.
Thursday, May 12, 2011
I have such a knot in my stomach right now as I am writing this. I just had a very difficult and awkward conversation with Caroline's new best friend's mother. Caroline is still struggling with mania, and on Monday at lacrosse practice she lost it, crying, yelling at girls without cause. When this friend's mom, who was giving her a ride home, asked why she was so upset, Caroline blurted out a crazy tall tale that alarmed this mother so much that she called me to find out if this tale was true. Before I could talk to her and have the dreaded "my child is bipolar" conversation, Caroline heard from this friend that someone had told her mm that she was dangerous and had beat people up in the third grade. Carline called me very distraught that her reputation was being ruined by this gossip, and I tried consoling her, but I was livid myself. My dear daughter can't easily escape her past behaviors five years ago. This is a small town. I want a new neighborhood very badly. My precious daughter needs a clean slate without her past haunting her all the time. Anyway, her friend told her that her mother had heard this rumor and was extremely concerned. Thus, after much prayer and anxiety, I called her and we talked, pretty awkwardly, abut Carline's illness and the fact that she isn't dangerous, just quirky. This mother was clueless abut bipolar disorder, I could tell by her questions, and, as fate would have it, she lives near the rumor mill's source, a previous classmate at an academy my eldest daughter attended three years back. Great. I was calm as I could be, but I did feel my emotions rising as her responses weren't what I had hoped. She seemed very guarded and I wouldn't be surprised if she would ban her daughter from being with my daughter. I hate this disorder. It is unfair and cruel!! I am just low in my heart and dreading Carline's complete devastation if she loses yet anther best friend before the friendship has even lasted a few months. I hate bipolar disorder. I am praying they will find a cure!!! My daughter is discriminated against because she has a physical, chemical illness and this is just unfair and very hard as her mother watching her endless search after a true friend.
Posted by Megan at 11:39 AM