About our Daughter

I am mother to four wonderful daughters, ages 17, 19, 21, and 23, and wife to the greatest husband on earth. God has given us a special child to raise one who was diagnosed with early-onset bipolar disorder at the age of seven, though she showed signs of it from the age of fifteen months. She also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (sensory seeking), Dyslexia, and Non-Verbal Learning Disorder-NOS, all typical comorbidities for a bipolar child. In spite of the trials, she enjoys lacrosse, running (finished her first marathon in October of 2014!), and reading and writing her own books. I will share with you the many joys and sorrows we have faced and will face in the future with the hope that you may find better understanding about this mental illness caused by both chemical and structural abnormalities in the brain. I desire that you will be encouraged by this blog if you are also dealing with a bipolar child. Thank you for reading and sharing in our journey.

How Did You Know She Was Bipolar So Young?

I wrote a long explanation of how we came to this bipolar diagnosis in a child so young under my post of March 19th of 2009. If your child or a child you know bears similarities, please seek out a good psychiatrist and don't wait for "things to get better." Often they will simply get worse, and the longer a child is unmedicated, the more damage their brain can accrue. Early diagnoses and treatment are key to providing these children with a chance at a successful life later as a teen and an adult.
Never change, start or stop a medication without the approval of your child's physician!

Friday, February 25, 2011

Start of Lacrosse Season, Another Opportunity to Make Friends

And will she?  Sometimes she shoots herself in the foot by deciding ahead of time that she won't be able to relate to anyone, they won't accept her, they look at her weirdly, etc.  There may be some of this, but we think that a lot of the time she makes things harder for herself by putting up a lot of defenses early and by the fact that she misinterprets other's facial expressions, body language.  Social skills don't come easy for her at all.  Most bp kids really struggle to make and keep friends.  She hasn't had a close friend in over five years.  Her jealousy over her older sister's uncanny ability to make and keep dozens of friends, seemingly every month, grows more intense every year.  She has one potentially good friend through lacrosse, but it seems like their schedules outside of lacrosse are very conflicting.  Sometimes I wonder if we should let Caroline go to public school just for the bigness of the potential pool of friends, but then again that would bring so many new problems as well.  Helping her to navigate all of the hazards found in a large public high school might be more than I could handle.  I read so much on the CABF website from other parents about the endless and very scary problems of bp teens in public high schools that I am loathe to enter into that fray.

1 comment:

domandkat said...

Making as many friends as her big sister is overwhelming even to me! Keeping them is even MORE overwhelming!!! Far better to have two or three. I'll pray for that! That she won't try so hard to impress or give up before she even meets anyone, put up defenses or let all her difficulties out in one go. That a couple of girls can be Jesus friends with her.

When is this thing you were talking about the other day?