About our Daughter

I am mother to four wonderful daughters, ages 13, 16, 17 and 20, and wife to the greatest husband on earth. God has given us a special child to raise one who was diagnosed with early-onset bipolar disorder at the age of seven, though she showed signs of it from the age of fifteen months. She also has ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder (sensory seeking), Dyslexia, and Non-Verbal Learning Disorder-NOS, all typical comorbidities for a bipolar child. She is in the very challenging teen years, and she is attempting a big public high school for the first time. In spite of the trials, she enjoys lacrosse, running, and reading and writing her own books. I will share with you the many joys and sorrows we have faced and will face in the future with the hope that you may find better understanding about this mental illness caused by both chemical and structural abnormalities in the brain. I desire that you will be encouraged by this blog if you are also dealing with a bipolar child. Thank you for reading and sharing in our journey.

How Did You Know She Was Bipolar So Young?

I wrote a long explanation of how we came to this bipolar diagnosis in a child so young under my post of March 19th of 2009. If your child or a child you know bears similarities, please seek out a good psychiatrist and don't wait for "things to get better." Often they will simply get worse, and the longer a child is unmedicated, the more damage their brain can accrue. Early diagnoses and treatment are key to providing these children with a chance at a successful life later as a teen and an adult.
Never change, start or stop a medication without the approval of your child's physician!

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Changed the Look

I like this blog template of a bus traveling along a desert highway, seemingly to nowhere, forever just going and going, who knows where.  I would say that sometimes life with a bipolar child (or an autistic child, or one with Aspergers, Juvenile Diabetes, etc. ) can feel like that, that we are on a junky bus on an endless journey, through a barren desert, not knowing where we will land at the end of the road.  Then slowly you begin to realize that the journey is more important than the destination.  Living life now, in the moment, in the messiness, and not allowing yourself to give in to despair and depression is what makes the journey tolerable, more than that, meaningful.   The end is in a place we can't see right now.  How we get there does matter.

Right now Caroline is freaking out about finishing assignments before the end of the quarter.  So is my husband.  In fact, he is more freaked out than she is.  Please, relax.  Let's remember why we are homeschooling, not so we can have more stress, but a little less.  She has enough stressors in her life right now physically, socially, and emotionally.  One foot in front of the other and before you know it the end of May will be here and she will have LEARNED.   Not crammed, memorized, and spat out,  but LEARNED.  I want her to love learning, not hate academics because she feels like she is in a pressure cooker.  The hubby needs to go back to work and do guy-stuff.  I am grateful for his help in homeschooling, but God could you give my husband a job???

9 comments:

Warrior MAMA said...

Megan-

you have such a way with words. Yes I struggle from falling into the dispair and despression and enjoying the good days and moments we have!

Thanks for your posts!

:)
Lisa
www.warriormama.com

Anna said...

love of learning is the key. Pressure is not necessary or good.

Kelly said...

That is my prayer for my whole family this year, but most especially for my bipolar daughter... to love learning.

Lila said...

Here here!! My daughter gets stressed out by her tutor, even here at home. The academics are the least of our concerns right now.

I really appreciate your bits of humor as well!
(((hugs)))

Rose Adoption Journey said...

A..freaking...men! Mine is driving me crazy. His hours were cut and he is only home a few days but just enough to drive me crazy and I even work full time!! (-;

Mel ~ said...

Oh my dear, you are truly a warrior! Much love and
Hugs!

Mel ~ said...

Oh, I wanted to share with you that (despite the beautiful template) the header that your introduction is on is very dark with a font that is difficult to read on. You might want to consider changing the font color in your template editor's advanced settings.

mommylebron said...

When we first took LeBella out of school one of the big reasons was to help relieve some of her stress and anxiety. At first I was a little to gung ho with our homeschooling structure. That didn't last. Lately I felt I had been too lax and I was feeling extremely guilty as I took her into the public school last week for some testing. When I found out she had the highest scores in her (former) class I realized I was stressing unnecessarily. I'm following her lead but she is learning. We cook and talk and craft and watch documentaries and explore the internet and she absorbs it all!

Megan said...

Thanks for all of the comments! I changed the fonts to be more readable. Yes, homeschooling shouldn't be just like "school" in the classroom or it defeats the purpose of learning in a whole new way. With a new semester ahead of us, I hope to regroup a little bit and change things around so that Caroline can be more engaged in learning and not freaked out about grades.