Well, while Bill and I were at Jane's first soccer game, Elizabeth, the oldest, and Caroline got into a huge fight (should have insisted that Caroline come with us to the game) over who owned a particular item of clothing. I had made the mistake of labeling it with a permanent marker as Elizabeths when it was something that Caroline had bought with her own money. My bad, again. I get a call from Caroline who was VERY upset. I should have been home during the game, or one of them needed to not be home with the other. They just can't be left together, which I want to optimistically believe they can handle. Not so much.
The worst part of this fight was that Elizabeth lit into Caroline using the word "bipolar" which Caroline is HIGHLY sensitive about when used against her. She went crazy. I had to put her in the car to calm her down. Both of them had been really ugly and immature with each other, but Elizabeth cannot throw "bipolar" at her to be ugly. It is too hurtful and produces the most pained reaction in Caroline that we see. She must understand that.
Caroline really wants to be friends with Elizabeth, but Elizabeth, sadly, rejects her attempt again and again. We are very sad and concerned about this. We want our girls to be friends as adults and to be there for each other, like I am with my three sisters. Painful for us to watch.
But God is a redeemer of the ugly, the broken, and the hopeless.
"For I know my Redeemer lives!" Handel.
I believe God can redeem the most messed up parts of our lives and bring beauty from ashes. I have seen Him work in ways that still surprise my unbelieving heart.