Friday, April 21, 2017

I stopped blogging, but here is why...

Many have reached out and wondered why I stopped blogging.  The truth is she is doing SO WELL! At 21, she is attending community college, applying to Physical Therapy Assistant School, and running marathons.  She makes her own psychotherapy and psychiatry appointments, refills her meds on her own, takes them regularly and self-monitors like a champ.  She lives at home but will likely move into her own apartment this summer.  She started her own dog sitting business and works part-time at an optometrist office and even does the initial patient exams.  We NEVER thought she would ever be able to do these things.  The key to her success is that she went to Meridell Achievement Center years ago where they got her on the right med mix (still different meds!) and has always gone to counseling faithfully.  And the biggest thanks goes to God who has been the One she still credits with her turnaround when she was 13 and went to five months in the best residential treatment facility we could find.

My advice:  NEVER give up finding the best providers for your child.  DON'T rely on the public school alone to give your child what they need.  You need the SUPPORT systems for the whole family that you need to FIND and KEEP, whether online through the parent groujps on the  Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance www.dbsalliance.org or in the nearest city if it has better providers.  We drove an hour and a half away for a time to get our daughter what she needed.  Take care of your own needs and those of the siblings who should all be counseling as well.  PRAY hard and ask for help.   Also don't be AFRAID to medicate.  Really.  I'll say it again.  DON'T BE AFRAID TO MEDICATE.  Medications have SAVED her life.  She was not functional before we found the right mix and yes it is A LOT.  Some kids have severe bipolar disorder.  Don't think that the just-do-essential-oil-and-all-natural-remedies approach is going to work for MOST bipolar kids.  I'm shooting straight here because I get so tired of parents telling me that their kid is a mess and they don't want to medicate.  Really?  So you would rather they suffer?  And not have a life?  Get over it!!! Loving your child isn't hoping for the best while denying them what they need.

God is good.  Trust Him, take care of yourself, and never give up.  Intervene early.  Stay connected even if it is just online.

Blessings, Megan